Ladies N' Lattes: Why I Became A YouTuber with #MyFriendJess


Over the past year and a half, I have been blessed with the most beautiful, blossoming friendship. My friend Jessica is smart, kind, a wonderful mama and wife….but most of all, she gets me.

I met Jess at a time in my life when I really needed her most. I was on the brink of ending a tumultuous, roller-coaster of a 5-year friendship with a few more ending within the following 6 months. I’m in my late 20’s and at a turning point in my life—some refer to this time as “Saturn Return.” I have yet to research the astrological relation but I’m sure there is some merit to it. This turning point is where half-baked friendships that go un-nutured fizzle out rather quickly and can no longer be sustained by superficial or conditional circumstances. With this turning of tide, I was loosing a bit of faith. Faith that adult women could actually be good friends. And, that they could actually be supportive of one another in a genuine way. In my industry, “friends” come and go. Some claim to be your friend, when really they are just seeking something from you…a shared pedestal to stand on, a way to get ahead…not all people are that way, but in the dance world, ‘mean girls’ truly are a dime a dozen. I felt like too many of my “friends” were drawn from the same pool over and over again. I was seeing a pattern and connection to my faulty, baseless friendships and the {lack} of foundation those relationships stood on. By the same token, it was (and still is) really hard to make friends as an adult, outside of your own interests and hobbies. How do you make (real) friends at age 29 when you spend all of your time immersed in your work and play (which for me happen to be the same thing)?

So in August of 2017 Jess comes along. We immediately had an easy connection, meaning there was nothing strained or forced about it. The first thing I noticed about her—she did not try to impress me, prove anything to me, or compete with me as a fellow woman. And, GASP—she's not an aerialist or a pole dancer. She was herself, through and through but she was also genuinely excited for me and things happening in my life. Wow—support from another woman? I was shocked. She still is all of these things. Her realness was the breath of fresh air that I needed. Her genuine confidence and happiness to simply be my friend, no strings attached, restored something in me that I don’t know if I can ever really thank her for. From day one I was inspired by her and continue to be every day.

Jess and her husband are already successful, full-time YouTubers with Austin & Jess Vlogs & Men Try. I was featured twice on the Men Try Videos channel, helping the guys learn aerial sling and pole (this is how Jess and I first met). Through a natural progression, Jess and I decided we should make a channel of our own, called “Ladies N’ Lattes.” The focus and inspiration behind this channel is pretty straight forward: we are celebrating two women being friends. In today’s world, I think it’s a rare find what Jess and I have and I think it’s something to absolutely be celebrated and documented. The channel will eventually become a record / diary of our journey together, but I think it will also be a positive outlet for other women to look at female interactions from a completely new perspective. What would it actually look like for adult women to have healthy competition between each other? What does it mean to hold space for your friend and truly be there when she needs you most? I have the utmost faith that Jess will be all of these things and more through our YouTube channel and beyond. I don’t know what the future holds, but I am excited to be on this journey with her.

We have received an astonishing amount of support with the initial launch of our channel. As of today, January 1, 2019 (launch date) we already have over 5,000 subscribers (Do you know how long it took me to get to 5k on my Instagram? Literally years! LOL). In our first video, we touched on some of the things I have mentioned in this blog, but we also discussed our hopes and dreams for L&L in the future. We have received so many supportive comments already that confirms what we are about to ignite in the world is very much needed and important. To say I am excited for the story we are about to write is an understatement.

Now…thank YOU, reader, for taking the time to digest my thoughts and words. There is so much more to come. I hope this intro to the meaning of L&L serves its purpose in whatever way this (ongoing) story manifests truth in your own life & friendships. I also hope you subscribe to our channel to follow our journey and be part of this story with us.

Feel free to comment on this post (maybe after you watch our first video) with your thoughts and ideas on what future L&L videos might look like. The world is our oyster!